Preview of Chapter 3 from book with my Dad

NEXT SPRING will be the launch of the book I am co-authoring with my Dad; Mike Somers on his offbeat stories of triumph, tragedy and life as a mailman and realtor that he shared with me through the years. A lot of life wisdom packed into the book! Here is a sneak peak a Chapter 3! Chapter #3 GOD ANSWERS PRAYERS
In 2006 I represented Barry and Donna in the sale of their Reseda, California home. They had purchased their home at the peak of the market in 2005, and were having great difficulty making the monthly payment. Barry became more and more moody and frustrated, coming home wanting to sleep or just watch TV. This caused Donna to feel depressed and helpless. To make matters worse, their 15 year old son Anthony had just been arrested after being involved with drugs involving some of the neighborhood teenagers. He had been spiraling out of control since hanging out with a rough crowd. The matter of selling the home was now urgent. 
With only a small amount of equity in the home, escrow then closed, and Barry and Donna began to rent an apartment that a family member owned at a highly discounted rate in Glendale, California. Although their son Anthony improved a bit in who he was hanging out with, and in his behavior,in 2008 the recession hit hard and Barry's contractor business completely failed, causing him to go into a severe depression. Some days Barry found that he could not even get out of bed. He felt worthless not being able to provide for his family, and was unable to communicate with them positively. Donna now had to take on three difficult jobs as a waitress, cleaning lady and crossing guard just to pay the rent and feed the family.
Six years later in 2013, matters had not improved. Barry and Donna were still living in the same apartment, and their son Anthony now wanted to go to college at California State University Northridge. Unfortunately there was no extra money to send him there. The entire family felt hopeless, sad and deflated. However, Donna had an inner feeling of hope and promise.
On July 4, 2013 Donna had the urge to buy scratch-off lottery tickets at a local convenience store. She borrowed a quarter so that she would have the $2.00 needed to buy two tickets. When she scratched them off she discovered she had won $10.00. 
She went back into the store and purchased a special $10.00 “Golden ticket”. Before scratching it she prayed with faith to give her family a house once again. When she scratched it she was overwhelmed to discover she had won $77,000.
She rushed home excited, to show her family, and her sister happened to be at the apartment. Her sister grabbed the ticket out of Donna’s hand and realized that Donna hadn’t scratched the entire number away. Her sister started to cry huge tears of joy, shouting to Donna that she had actually won $777,000! Barry and Anthony ran out of their rooms bug eyed, realizing that indeed, Anthony would go to college and they would buy their dream home.
As Donna's former Realtor, I had kept in contact with them over the years. On that same July 4 day she called me to make an appointment to come to her Glendale apartment to discuss buying a house. She did not tell me at that time about her big win, but she did sound thrilled. Three days later we met. They showed me photos of her big win at the convenience store, and had already received a letter from the California State Lottery Board telling her that she would receive her funds in 4 to 6 weeks. We immediately began looking at homes. In a short time we found an extremely nice one with a pool and gorgeous yard not far from California State University Northridge where Anthony would now be attending. We used the letter from the California Lottery Board to prove the buyers' funds to the seller. By the end of July the real check had arrived, and by mid-August (1 1/2 months from the big win) Barry and Donna were in the completely paid for dream home. As soon as they had called me, Barry felt huge weights lifted off of him, and his depression ended. He made plans with a good friend to open a new business.
Miracles do happen. God does answer prayers....Many times there are happy endings....JUST BELIEVE!

Life Changes - By Kim Somers Egelsee & Mike Somers

CHAPTER #11: LIFE CHANGES 

- Excerpt from upcoming book by Kim Somers Egelsee and her dad Mike Somers

It was a beautiful sunny morning. 78 year old Lou waved to his neighbor as he picked up the morning paper.

Once inside he poured himself a hot cup of coffee and thought about the tasks he planned to complete this day. Lou had settled nicely into retired life after spending 39 years as a top psychologist. He still worked part-time helping his wonderful wife who he had been married to for over fifty years, Jeanne plan tours for her travel agency which she had run for more than 40 years. In the early years of Lou's business, Jeanne once asked him for assistance with setting up a tour to Africa. Lou balked at first, worrying about a lengthy absence affecting his psychology practice. Jeanne chimed in that either Lou was going, or she would get someone else to go with her. This was an important lesson for Lou of keeping the balance in his life. Jeanne won, and Lou accompanied her on the trip of his life, with many more to follow.

Lou had now been reading the paper and drinking his coffee for over 1 1/2 hours. He wondered why Jeanne had not gotten up yet and joined him. When he went in to check on her he could sense something was terribly wrong. Jeanne was completely unresponsive. Lou called 911 and a paramedic team responded. Jeanne had suffered a major stroke, never to be the same again. Despite doctors giving Lou very little hope for Jeanne's improvement, Lou wanted the very best for the love of his life. He had Jeanne admitted to a local assisted living facility with a medical staff that specialized in stroke victims. The cost of this treatment was over $9,000 per month.

To make sure he had enough funds to indefinitely pay for this care, Lou decided to sell his rental house where he had close to $400,000 in equity. This was certainly not what Lou wanted, but he knew it was necessary. We both knew this would be a tough sale. The house was located on a busy street and the market was going through a major slow down.

Three weeks into the listing, we had only one showing. We had also done three open houses with dismal results.

Then an amazing thing happened. At the time, every Sunday we would visit my wife Nancy's elderly dad Ben, and have dinner with him. He was now alone, and welcomed our company and meal together. He always ate well when we brought the food. I really don't think he was eating much at all during the rest of the week. That afternoon I bought him a CD set of old Christian spirituals sung by old-time country greats like Eddy Arnold and Tennessee Ernie Ford. That night we played those songs, and for about an hour Ben was the happiest I had seen him in years. We discussed the home with him, and the three of us said a little prayer for Lou, Jeanne and the sale of their home. We came home feeling uplifted and joyful energy.

When I walked in the door our phone immediately rang. A man claiming to be a doctor announced that he wanted to buy Lou's busy street home for "full price all cash". No one would make such a declaration so I was skeptical. At that time cash offers were extremely rare. I asked the doctor if he had actually seen the house, and he responded "No” but he was sure he wanted it. I arranged to meet him the next day to see the home. I told him that we would need his proof of funds to submit an offer. The doctor arrived on schedule with proof of funds for $7 million dollars!! The sale went through without a hitch and closed escrow in just 7 days. It was truly the strangest and smoothest transaction ever. I truly believe it was a gift from God.

Lou now had the money he needed to assure that Jeanne would get the best care possible. For the next year Jeanne did progress well. Lou visited her daily and spent a lot of quality time with her. Sadly, at the one year point she suffered another stroke which took her life. Lou knew in his heart that he had given her all of the love and care that were humanly possible. One year after her passing Lou set up one last African tour in her honor and memory. He had a great time...

30 Mindful Ways to Pay It Forward - By Tangee Veloso

I’m sure most of you have heard or seen the movie, “Pay It Forward” featuring Kevin Spacey, Helen Hunt and Haley Joel Osment. This movie was based on the best-selling novel by the same name written by Catherine Ryan Hyde.

The movie is about a young boy who did 3 good deeds for others in need. All the child wanted in return was for them to pass on the good deed to three other people so that the practice of helping one another could spread exponentially. Thus, creating a conscious social movement that could impact with making the world a better place.

I remember watching this movie when it first came out in 2000 and was so moved by its message. I also remember definitely being inspired to pay it forward to others and I’m sure I did (exactly what I did I can’t recall because it was 12 years ago). And then it dawned on me just now (as my fingers are quickly touching the keypad to express my thoughts onto the screen) that it was that long ago! The question that pondered in my head was “How often have I done random acts of kindness for people since then?” I mean, I know I have definitely given food and money to several homeless people standing by an exit of a freeway but how about other strangers I’ve come across? Have I really gone out of my way to help in a meaningful way to strangers that has created such an impact in their lives that has inspired them to also pay it forward to others? I honestly don’t know.

Sure, I’ve inspired several people and have actually moved them in some way that has impacted their lives but I truthfully don’t know when the last time I did a random act of kindness to a stranger that possibly moved them in the sense that they would want to spread the joy to other strangers too. Well I think it’s time I do!

Often times, we get so caught up in our own lives that the true meaning behind “paying it forward” can be but a faint, distant whisper in the breeze. Too often the phrase gets tossed around and used so loosely that some people don’t even know what the term even represents anymore. And sometimes the act of being kind can get buried beneath our own issues that we feel we have nothing more to give. We become too overwhelmed with our own lives, our own families, our own kids…too tired, too stressed out, too much in a hurry to be present. Present to the fact that when we give freely from our hearts, how much more we truly receive in our own lives…just the feeling of giving is so rewarding.  But trust me, I get it.  Sometimes we have to do what we have to do in order to take care of our our own lives and nurture self-love and self-care.  But in times when we CAN give back - it can put a smile not only on someone else’s face but our own, it can decrease the stress and overwhelm that we feel as parents, and can even attract more ease and happiness in our lives.

And an even more gratifying feeling is knowing that when we model this to our children, we get the opportunity to show them another wonderful way to become compassionate and unconditionally loving towards others. Wow! Talk about bringing a whole new level of awareness to the phrase, right?!

When we do random acts of kindness, it actually shifts our way of thinking, our way of being. Instead of saying to ourselves, “What’s in it for me?”, we start to ask ourselves, “How can I create a little happiness for someone with no strings attached?”

So if you haven’t paid it forward in awhile or would like to do more of it, now is the time. It’s time to move beyond our own “stuff”, our own stories and create a new story to tell. It’s time to find ways to actually give it forward.


What are several simple ways you can start doing this today? 

1. Pay the highway toll fee for the vehicle behind you. 
2. Buy food for a homeless person (or participate with an organization to feed the homeless). 
3. Give a warm jacket or blanket to a homeless person. 
4. Put money in someone’s parking meter that is about to expire. 
5. Pay for someone’s food behind you in line. 
6. Bake some goodies for a new neighbor or any neighbor for that matter! 
7. Let the person in line behind you go before you at the cash register. 
8. Volunteer at a non-profit organization that helps the needy 
9. Support a good cause either financially or physically 
10. Visit an ill patient at a hospice 
11. Volunteer at an elderly home or an animal shelter 
12. Offer to baby sit for a family 
13. Make a meal or help clean for a family who recently had a baby 
14. Loan something to someone and don’t ask for it back 
15. Put money in a street performer’s jar 
16. Spend time with children at an orphanage 
17. Donate clothes, toys, books to a shelter for battered women and children during the holidays and/or anytime of the year 
18. Be a mentor 
19. Invite the less fortunate over for dinner during the holidays (or anytime for that matter) 
20. Donate time/money/energy towards a fundraiser for a school 
21. Give your services pro bono 
22. Help grow a community garden 
23. Donate your hair to Locks of Love or other organizations that make wigs for people who need it 
24. Plant a tree or clean up garbage at a park or the beach 
25. Pay for a stranger’s meal at a restaurant 
26. Pick someone at the bank, post office or grocery store and make a special card with your child and/or buy a gift to give to them 
27. Give all your recyclables to a homeless person so they can collect the money 
28. Give a loan to this organization, Kiva that is helping and empowering people around the world 
29. Get your neighborhood/community to donate toiletries to Children of the Night which helps to keep kids off the streets 
30. Continue to be present and keep your eyes peeled for anyone you see that looks like they may need a helping hand, i.e. holding the door open for an old lady, helping to carry groceries out for a single mom with kids, etc. 

These are just some of the ways that you can give a helping hand. There are many other ways to do it, too. But there is one way that is definitely important and that is spreading the word! If someone wants to thank you and pay you “back”, let them know that you’d prefer for them to pay it “forward” and do something thoughtful for three people they don’t know and then ask those three people to do something thoughtful for three more people and so on. This way it continues to consciously increase unconditional love throughout the world.

Just as Ghandi once said, “Be the change you want to see in the world”. So let’s continue to be the “pebble” in the pond that creates a ripple effect of consciousness!



About Tangee Veloso

Tangee Veloso is the founder of Family Love Village (FLV), the world’s leading conscious community, website and iMagazine called the FLVillage Crier for families passionate about parenting through connection and eco-holistic living. She is also a life coach and author of a conscious parenting book called “Taming Your Wild Child: 7 Proven Principles for Raising Connected and Confident Children!”

Her commitment in creating a supportive forum and a conscious parenting movement by co-creating FLVillages globally where families can be educated on parenting through connection from the many legendary trailblazers before her, as well as learn about becoming eco-friendly advocates and supporting a more natural, holistic lifestyle is the main focus for FLV. Tangee is an eco-mamapreneur, a performer, and a devoted and loving mama to her 6 year old son..

HOW TO HAVE A SEXY, SPECTACULAR, SHINING LIFE ~By Kim Somers Egelsee

Do you want to have the kind of life that is excitingly appealing, glamorous and filled with adventure; a life where you reveal the real you, your truest self, living on purpose with passion? You truly can!

Here are some tips and tools for living the life of a sexy, spectacular star. You do deserve it.

1. Plan something exciting at least three times per month; this can be a trip, an event, dinner with friends, going to a fabulous art museum, horseback riding and more.
2. Schedule vacations. 
3. Hang around exciting people; decide who you'd like to know and take steps toward that. This is living with intention. 
4. Follow your heart and do something you're passionate about daily.
5. Make a list of things you dislike doing but need to do and make them fun, creative or unique
6. Turn on music and dance.
7. Dress up.
8. Reward yourself.
9. Watch, attend, read or listen to  something meaningful...learn and grow.
10. Get bold and out of your comfort zone and try something new.

"9 Ways to Overcome Growing Pains" ~ By Tangee Veloso

“Self love is accepting yourself, as is. 

Reach for the stars…but love yourself right where you are.” 

~ Unknown

In the last issue, “5 Ways to Create Space and Feel Clutter-Free”, I shared tips on creating more space for yourself emotionally. This has been the on-going theme for myself for the past month or so. Finding the balance and peace within myself so that the eye in the storm doesn’t get swept into the tornado’s whirlwind cadence has definitely been challenging to say the least. But the more space I make and the more clutter I clear while being able to silence the chatter in my head, the more I am able to listen to the answers bubbling up within.

I remember awhile back when the noise was just too loud to fully listen to my intuition back then. I can recall being swept away in the tornado ten years ago in a situation that seemed like a very similar situation that I am in now. Where I had lost everything: my job, my home, my relationship. Yet this time around, although somewhat familiar, there was something different. I was different. I had grown from that once lost girl who was desperate to find a way to get things back to “normal” or back to the way things were before to me now having a deep sense of knowing that I no longer wanted things to be the same as they were. Back then I spiraled down a dark hole of self-destructive behavior while now I am reclaiming my power and facing my fears head on.

This time around, I am not getting the same sense of me losing everything. As painful and challenging as it may feel a lot of the time, I actually for the first time feel like I am gaining something: ME. I am finally at a place in my life that loving myself comes first. This is the only way that I can model this to my son to love himself is if I embrace it myself, too. And sometimes loving oneself requires letting go of situations that no longer serve the person you are evolving into.

Another thing that I have noticed is that this time around there are no agendas or expectations from anyone or from any particular situation. I just continue to practice being really present. Present to my feelings and allowing myself the space to truly feel the emotions as opposed to numbing them. Present to taking moments like this to ponder through my writing so that I can place my attention on the Truth and see the bigger picture beyond the circumstances, beyond the pain and feel gratitude for everything that I am experiencing; knowing that everything is supporting my growth. I still have those moments where I go into a place of lack and fear as I consistently look for a job while building my businesses at the same time to pay the bills and put food on the table. Yet I keep placing my attention on the present moment and continue to do what I love, as well. Like writing, for instance. This is my first love and has always been a healthy way for me to release. And although the changes feel scary at times, there is something definitely different this time around and it is feels liberating.

It has been told by doctors that when children go through growing pains, the pain is triggered when their bones grow and stretch over the bone’s thick covering. To me, metaphorically, the pain that triggers us adults when going through drastic changes is a gift that allows our inner strength to stretch beyond Ego’s thick covering, as well.

At least for me, it’s an opportunity that allows for choice; to choose whether I am going to become a victim of my circumstances or to rise above them, to trust and to continue following what feels True for me. To make decisions that intuitively feel light and come from a place of love rather than making choices out of need and fear that tend to feel heavy. This too reflects on all aspects of my life: how I choose to parent with my son; whether I respond from a place of love or react from a place of fear. It is all relative to one another and all begins with a choice.

Just like growing pains for a child is considered a rite of passage so too are the moments when we experience change on an emotional and spiritual level. Unlike most rites of passage that are usually celebrated, some transitional periods require a more intimate healing process.

I recently wrote a book for my son about change to set the stage and help with the transitions that were about to occur in our lives. This is a great tool for whenever you are introducing something that might feel foreign and scary for them at first (i.e. going to their first dentist or doctor visit, going to school for the first time, or when a parent goes on their first business trip away from the family, etc). I learned this wonderful tip from Ruth Beaglehole from Echo Parenting and Education.

The book I wrote for my son is called “From Caterpillar to Butterfly: When Things Change” and it talked about the different stages of a caterpillar’s life. Its message shared that just like caterpillars shift their form so too does life for us humans. Towards the end I gave reminders of ways that he can release his frustrations in a healthy way in case any of the changes felt a bit overwhelming and scary.

As important as it is for us to support our little ones through their emotional growing pains, it is also crucial for us parents to find tools and resources to help us through our own, as well. And it all begins with taking the first step towards loving ourselves.
The following are a couple of tools that can support more self-love:

1. Acknowledgement - becoming aware of our emotional pain seems like an apparent thing to do but often the emotional trauma lies beneath the surface; below the energy field that we are sometimes not aware of that has most likely stemmed from our childhood. And then surprisingly, the emotional distress that we are feeling sometimes isn’t even our own!

Do you ever sometimes feel sad or angry for no apparent reason? According to Gary Douglas and Dr. Dain Heer from Access Consciousness, 98% of our thoughts, feelings and emotions aren’t even our own! If this is the case, that is a pretty insane percentage of just how much of other people’s emotions and programming that we carry on our shoulders that take up space. Precious space that could be used to create what we really want to experience in our lives.

The good news is there is a simple and amazing tool from Access Consciousness that you can do and teach your children to do, as well when big feelings arise for either one of you. It is called “Who Does This Belong To?”. This link shares a short video and brief description on how to use the tool that can give you more freedom and joy when you are willing to ask this question.

After you acknowledge the pain, the next step is:

2. Forgiveness - too often we are hard on ourselves and judge our own behavior (of course something that was most likely passed down from our childhood). Sometimes it seems easier to forgive others than to forgive ourselves but in order to model the real value of forgiveness to our children, we must learn to give our inner child empathetic connection, as well.
After forgiveness, it is about making the decision to move forward towards feeling complete joy in our lives.

In order to say “Yes” to ourselves and begin to heal our own wounds, the next several steps are a summarized version from an excerpt from my book, “Taming Your Wild Child: 7 Proven Principles for Raising Connected and Confident Children!”.

These steps involve:

1. Actually choosing you - Taking the time to get your needs met
2. Breathing to get grounded - Allow the brain gibberish to dissipate by focusing on the breath.
3. Listening to your heart’s true desires of what you love doing - Once you have chosen to start loving yourself and have slowed down the brain chatter through breathing, now it’s time to listen from your heart to feel what drives your passion.
4. Honing in on a list of things you love doing and writing them down on a piece of paper- You may know what gets you ticking and ignites the passion, but writing it down will be a good reminder for you to start doing more of the items on that list.
5. Then actually doing what you wrote on that list - What is actually possible when we are actually doing what we truly love doing that enriches who we are being in the world? What if by beingwhat you love to do awakens you to your Truth and fills you up, instead of just filling a void?
6. Smiling - Whether you’re looking at yourself in front of the mirror or walking past a stranger, smile! Research has shown that smiling doesn’t only affect one’s mood; it can affect one’s health, as well.
7. Being thankful - Being grateful is such an essential piece to the whole puzzle of manifesting what we love to do. When we give thanks, it is vibrating to the Universe that we are ready to manifest more of what we want to attract in our lives.

So if you are going through some emotional growing pains, and are finding it challenging to move past the stress, the first thing is to forgive and love yourself by taking steps (whether it is the suggested tips here or your own resources) to continue staying in the energy field of unconditional love and connection to and for yourself. Even if it feels like a death of an old life, being re-born into a new one that will continue to be a milestone, is a journey worth embarking on!

Just like the beautiful quote in the beginning of this article states that self-love is acceptance of who you are yet still having the willingness to continue “reaching for the stars” – meaning to always discover ways that intuitively guide you in following what is True for you but still embracing the love for yourself wherever you are at on your journey.

Tangee Veloso-Pueblos is the founder of Family Love Village (FLV),  the world’s leading conscious community, website and iMagazine called the FLVillage Crier for families passionate about parenting through connection and eco-holistic living.   She is also a life coach and author of a conscious parenting book called “Taming Your Wild Child: 7 Proven Principles for Raising Connected and Confident Children!”

Her commitment in creating a supportive forum and a conscious parenting movement by co-creating FLVillages globally where families can be educated on parenting through connection from the many legendary trailblazers before her, as well as learn about becoming eco-friendly advocates and supporting a more natural, holistic lifestyle is the main focus for FLV.  Tangee is an eco-mamapreneur, a performer, and a devoted and loving mama to her 6 year old son..

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