SHIFTING FROM STRESS TO SERENITY BY KIM SOMERS EGELSEE

Tips and Tools to Shift Stress into Serenity and Success

by Kim Somers Egelsee

As we experience our daily lives,  the days can be filled with phone calls, work and driving all over the place. It can get a bit crazy and demanding and we think we have to be Super heroes. Many of us aspire to be perfect. The perfect mom, wife, husband, dad,friend and business person. Then, when we mess up or do not follow through we often feel bad about ourselves, which puts us in a negative and disempowered state of mind.

It is important to forgive ourselves and do the best that we can. Rewarding ourselves and celebrating our successes helps us to stay motivated. Remember that

a bad mood  is just a low energy state and we have the power to shift out of it. Here are some ways we can change the energy from negative to positive.

1. Give!  Hug our spouses, significant others, friends or kids. Blow kisses more often. Do volunteer work, go help out a friend, smile at a child, call a family member. Giving helps you forget your troubles and feel great.

2. Go do something fun and exciting that you loved to do as a child, either alone, on a date or with your own kids. Build a sand castle, hula hoop, eat a peanut butter and jelly sandwich, take a day trip to Disneyland. Embrace your inner child and remember who you truly are.

3. Read an uplifting and inspirational book. Talk to an encouraging person,choose a mentor to regularly learn from,watch a motivating or funny  DVD. Smile more. Shout in the car empowering words such as " I am powerful."

4. Write in a journal what you are grateful for, what you have celebrated in your life and what you love about yourself. Go into a quiet spot and take time to reflect as you do this. Use your intuition and let the thoughts flow.

5. You need to remember self care; go get a massage , your hair cut, a new shirt. Feel good about you so you can be of service to others, an example to your children  and live more fulfilled.

6. Music is healing. Play an instrument, listen to your favorite tunes, go to a concert.

7. Take a step toward your passions and dreams. Start with a small step and then celebrate that you did it.

8. Pet a dog, hold a baby or hug a loved one. This releases endorphins.

9. Exercise. Work out at the gym, go do a yoga class, hike, swim.

10. Go out in nature and breathe.

Now, go out and see how quickly this shifts and elevates your mood and state. Try these often to uplift your life and experience a lot more joy so that you can meet your goals and resolutions and experience exciting adventures.

Kim Somers Egelsee is a best selling author and award winning speaker. Find her at www.kimlifecoach.com

Balance In Your Life by Lynn Singharaj, Lourdes Macias and Patricia Bohan

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Balance In Your Life

Emotional and mental wellness are critical and conducive aspects to lead a balanced life. 
 If our emotional or mental states are not in proper alignment our entire being is thrown off.  
Our emotional stability allows us to love the self, have true confidence in who we are, 
and be comfortable in our own skin.  We must be freely giving and receiving of ourselves 
and doing it with a genuine heart.  Without happiness in your heart and balance in your 
mind you cannot be at east and at peace.  It helps us to express to others who we really are, 
our Authentic Self.  

Every individual’s life should be filled with purpose and an enormous compassion for others. 
 Many think that in order to be successful you must be “rich” but what many don’t realize that 
to be successful you must first find balance within your life.  You must first change your old 
self-defeating habits.  Habits may not seem like such a big issue, but these are the things 
that you do everyday that are stopping you from achieving your true potential.  Reflect
 on who you are, your life and where you are at.  Finding out where you are and where
 you want to be will tell you what changes need to be made within your own life.

When being our Authentic Self we are more credible and relatable to others.  Being in this 
state allows us to be more open to possibilities and to laugh at our flaws.  To be able to 
embrace your own deficiencies helps to heal past emotional wounds that may have
 hindered you in the past.  It allows you to be the best you without striving for perfection
 in a world that is far from perfect.  Always be you and accept your flaws.  Without
 accepting your flaws you can never have peace within yourself.  We are our own 
worst critic and need to give ourselves more positive feedback.

Being aware of our thoughts and the impact our thoughts have on our actions and on our
 lives may force the need for a positive change.  So much negative self talk goes on 
and impacts daily life hindering many individuals in being their Authentic Self and 
not allowing their true self to shine through.  Having more self awareness allows us 
to see things and situations in their true light.  We will be more accepting of others, l
ess in denial, less judgmental, and find it easier to grasp the realities of life.  

What are the top five ways you can find balance in your life:

1. Get organized!  De-clutter your life not only of physical surroundings,
 but toxic relationships, and emotional baggage.  Balance comes with
 organization. 

2. Find peace in your surroundings.  Keep things around you that will 
make you feel calm and remind you of who you are striving to be.  
Set aside time to disconnect from electronics and be in peace.

3. Keep a calendar.  Managing your time effectively will make you
 more careful with how you spend your time.  Your time is valuable don’t 
waste it, balance is about being organized and keeping a schedule.

4. Say NO!  If you do not want to do something say no.  You should only
 do things in your life that you want to do 100% if it’s not 100% really 
think about why you are doing it, is it out of love or obligation?

5. Focus on you.  Make sure you are eating right, getting enough sleep, 
minimizing stress, and are interacting with others who are supportive 
of you.  Take time to take care of yourself and treat yourself to remind 
yourself of how important you are to you!

Being emotionally and mentally well helps us to have peace of mind, even during
 the most extreme dark and challenging phases of our life.  We will come out of
 challenging times seeing the lessons we learned, and being able to let go of 
the negative thoughts from the mind.  Whether it be personal, social, or work 
related, developing this wonderful balance of wellness is attainable and is
 manifested by having inner confidence and compassion for the wellness of 
others, and most importantly having self love.

CONFIDENT AND BOLD LIVING, THINKING AND BEHAVING

Confident and Bold Living, Thinking and Behaving 

Thinking outside the box is more than just a business cliché. It means approaching problems in new, innovative ways; conceptualizing problems differently; and understanding your position in relation to any particular situation in a way you’d never thought of before. Ironically, its a cliché that means to think of clichéd situations in ways that aren’t clichéd, embracing and letting out your unique qualities unapologetically.

Ways to think outside the box:

1. Ask a child: or several

2. Draw!!! 

3. Read something new: new class, new seminar 

4. Grab a bunch of various magazines for ideas

5. Search power words and items on the Internet w a journal 

6. Journal freestyle 

7. Change your location, space, routine.example:Writer Toni Morrison watched the sun come up in the morning before she would begin writing. She felt that this enabled her to access her creativity.

8. Brainstorm The brainstorming stage isn't about what is or isn't feasible. Avoid limiting yourself when you're brainstorming. This is the time when all ideas are welcome, no matter how silly or unworkable they sound. If you start limiting yourself during this stage of the thinking game, you aren't going to progress very far.

9. Mastermind or accountability partner 

10. Imagine 

There are always opportunities daily in everything

Look for them always

Disappointed? Look for the gift or opportunity 

1. Decide what opportunities would make your passion, purpose, project pursuit or profession soar, succeed or move forward in big ways.

Make a list now of two

2. Self Promotion; have 10-30 things you love about you as the foundation in your mind. Which 4 resonate w what you're doing here most?  Next, for one week, write to or connect with three people each day to ask for advice, guidance or ideas on these, ask for opportunities, and possibly even strategic partners. Make sure to add these qualities about yourself, and get comfortable mentioning them on paper and in person. 

3. Next, think of ways that you can create these opportunities on your own. Think bold, outside of the box. 

Take time to brainstorm a list of ideas all over your journal... Crazy ideas, fun ideas, wild ideas.

4. Ask yourself, who else does what I want to do. How did they get there?

Research this to gather even more ideas. Go to some specific  networking events that match  to connect w people. Keep learning so you become the guru of this and truly can own what you do.

5. Meet w an accountability partner at least once every week by phone or in person to review, gather ideas, feedback and assistance. 

6. Create plans of action.

Prioritize all of the ideas. Which are the 100% ideas that feel exciting, amazing and powerful?Take the top idea and begin with that. Break it into small steps and create a schedule and time frame for moving forward. 

7. Make sure to take steps right away. Action will fuel you and show you results. 

8. As soon as one of your self created opportunities is stepped into by you, celebrate and keep going!

9. Journal the results, connections, credibility,success, own it

10. Be ready when the bigger opportunities come as a result of this... Imagine, visualize, see the $ flowing in. 

A Chapter from the upcoming book with my Dad!

Chapter #8 The Wish

    Way back from ages 19 to 34 I carried the mail for the Postal Service.  My regular mail route, which is also ironically my real estate farm area, was in a middle class neighborhood in Granada Hills, California.  It was the "old fashioned" type of route where I carried a leather satchel on my shoulder and delivered mail directly to the front doors of each of the 350 homes.  With the same route for fourteen of those years, I got to know many of the people on the route quite well.  In many cases these people became good friends.  Later when I became a Realtor, many of these same people from the mail route sold their homes through me.  In addition, many grown-up (former children) from the route bought their very first homes through me.

     When making my daily rounds there were many people I looked forward to seeing each day, for they were always friendly, warm and positive.  On the other hand, some people were so negative that I wished I could completely avoid seeing them.  They were mad at the world, and believed they were victims of everything.

 One delightful man who always had a kind word to say was elderly cowboy Joe Walker. (At least he looked and sounded like a cowboy). Joe loved to tease me about any number of things he could think of.  Everything he said was always with a twinkle in his eye.  When it was 100 degrees outside he always had a cold drink waiting for me.  He was someone I truly looked forward to seeing each day.  In our short meetings, we often shared what was going on with our families, and sometimes commented on current news events.

      In 1973 I proudly told him my wife Nancy was pregnant.  Our first and only daughter Kim was born that October. In December Joe surprised me with a Christmas gift for Kim, a baby dress.  From that point on, every December Joe had a gift for Kim who was always excited to open it.  The gifts were always fun and thoughtful. There were a few times that I brought Kim out to proudly walk the mail route with me.  After about an hour, Nancy would always pick her up when she became bored and tired.  One day she was actually able to meet Joe Walker and thank him for his past generosity.  Joe then took a photo of Kim and kept it.

     A period of time passed where Joe was not out to greet me each day.  When I finally saw him again he looked sickly and frail.  He told me that he had cancer, and that he was not going to let doctors poke him and prod him anymore.  Each day when I would make my rounds Joe tried hard to be friendly and positive.  Unfortunately the cancer was progressing rapidly.

He always found time to ask about Kim.  He mentioned that he also had a granddaughter named Sheila who was about Kim's age.

He said, "Wouldn't it be great if Kim and Sheila could meet and become friends?"  I didn't give it much thought since the girls did not live near each other, and went to different schools.

     They cancer finally took Joe, and his daughter Marita and granddaughter Sheila moved into Joe's home with his wife Evelyn.

Kim attended school at the local Granada Hills Middle School.  One day she went to her best friend's home after school.

The two girls looked at a family photo album.  To both of their amazement, the album contained a photo of Kim from many years before.  Both girls were extremely puzzled.  When Kim came home and told me about it, after discovering who her best friend was I realized that Joe Walker's wish for Kim and Sheila to become friends had really occurred. I was in awe.

     Almost 30 years later Kim and Sheila are still good friends.  Kim is co-writer of this book.  She is also the Confidence Expert on the Lessons From Network, TV host, TED-X speaker, life coach, multi-award winning speaker, and #1 Best Selling author of "Getting Your Life To A Ten Plus". Sheila and Kim still share stories about Joe’s wish coming true for them to be friends.

 A SPECIAL LETTER FROM EVELYN (2014)

"Thank you Mike for remembering Joe in the book you and Kim are now writing.  I was surprised and appreciated how accurately you recalled Joe.  He would be very proud that you remembered him as a cowboy.  He was born and raised in Montana. Although he left there and joined the army at 17 and made it his career, he always kept his roots in Montana.

   He always had a true interest in you and your family.  He was the one who went shopping for and wrapped the package for Kim every year.  I'm sure Joe knows that Kim and Sheila became such good  and lasting friends.  I'm so proud of all that

Kim has accomplished.  She has always been like another granddaughter to me.  Thank you again."

Evelyn Walker

Kim Somers Egelsee Featured in the "What's Love Got to Do With It? Summit" with Denise Dominguez

Discover the Tools, Tips and Inspiration You Need to Help You Create the Life and Love You Deserve!

I am excited to announce that I will be a special guest of this powerful self-love summit, "What's Love Got to Do With It…EVERYTHING!" which will be hosted by Denise Dominguez

There will be 21 experts who will reveal the secrets to releasing the blocks that hold us back from truly loving ourselves.  

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Faith Can Move Mountains - By Featured Guest Blogger, Gloria Hass

In 1995, God called me to be an evangelist. Although I was raised in a Christian family and had invited friends to go to church when I was in high school, I wasn’t a person who prayed a lot and I was just beginning to have a relationship with Jesus although I had accepted Him as my Savior when I was 14 years of age. For the next eight years, I would study my Bible, ask pastors questions they couldn’t answer and learned how to be a prayer warrior.

In 2003, I became a full time RVer. I was mocked by some pastors because I was a woman in my late 40’s doing God’s work. I travelled throughout the mid-west, with my dog, as a street evangelist. I settled in Bullhead City, Arizona to be near my mother and God used me mightily there. I evangelized in three local churches and for one year I had my own radio show titled The Glorious Overcomer Show which aired on K-T-O-X AM out of Needles, California.

After a trip to the mid-west to meet with the owner of a Christian publishing house and to evangelize, I moved outside the Phoenix, Arizona area. Then, I met a pastor, who lived in Tucson, to help him with his ministry for one and a half years. After I left there, I attended a church where I met a pastor who was starting his own church. His plans were up in the air and I moved back to Bullhead City to help my mother after her boyfriend had passed away. During this time, I worked with a pastor in Kenya for about three months before his ministry took him elsewhere where he wasn’t connected to technology. During this time, I had prayed for God to use me for revival in the world.

After my mother’s affairs were settled, the pastor called me to Tucson where I was an on-staff evangelist where I was ordained through his ministry. His church was thriving and then I was asked to help plant a sister church also located in Tucson. I accepted and was an on staff evangelist for this church while the other church moved to a different location.

After six months, I left this church to take a sabbatical for rest and rejuvenation. During this time, my mother’s health started to go downhill because of COPD and Alzheimer’s disease. When my brother wasn’t able to take care of her on his own, I moved back to Bullhead City. I missed evangelizing and felt as if a part of me was missing. God told me it wasn’t time for me to return to doing His work spreading the gospel. I wondered if God was ever going to use me again being in my mid-fifties. During this time, a pastor friend of mine had been telling me that God was going to use me again and I would move back to Tucson.

After one and a half years, my work at my mother’s was over and I moved back to Tucson where God called me to go, only my ministry work didn’t start for another 15 months. During this time, I rested a lot to get my health back on track, which had greatly suffered from being a caregiver.

I was also quite ready to evangelize only God didn’t answer which I took as a “no” which was really a “not yet”. I asked God what He wanted me to do. I joined a mentoring group to start my then retired marketing consulting business back up. I had signed on some clients and was making a little money which supplemented my disability income. Then, my business dried up – no business – nothing. I wondered what was going on. I prayed and asked God what did He want me to do now and I heard the word “evangelize”. My heart soared! I asked Him how He wanted me to do that since I was unable to travel because of health challenges. I heard the word “technology”.

In April 2015, I stopped working my business and marketing consulting business since apparently God had closed it and began making ministry connections on LinkedIn and Facebook only nothing was happening. I kept going forward all the time believing God would reveal what I needed to do. I shifted my focus back on evangelism all the time waiting on God while making connections via technology.

On April 30, 2015, I received a friend request from a pastor who lives in Bungoma, Kenya, Africa. He introduced himself and I checked him out to make sure he was who he said he was. His ministry turned out to be a bona fide ministry and then I friended one of his friends who introduced me to an evangelist in Uganda who might be in need of my teachings. Both men requested for me to mentor them to help them build them up in Christ. Their foundation was weak not to any fault of their own. Church planters come in, bring people to Christ, show them how to start a church then leave. I started to mentor these men and ended up writing a home study curriculum “Walking in the Supernatural”. Both men grew tremendously and wanted more teachings which I am happy to say mentoring them as they continue to grow in Christ. The doors opened to mentor two young male college students who have also grown tremendously in their faith.

Starting in mid-June, after the pastor had completed his lessons from Walking in the Supernatural, I started sending teachings for him to preach on my behalf to his congregation of forty people.

During the rest of the month of June, I had pastors on LinkedIn ask me to help them with their ministries. I sent teachings by way of email. I was also approached by a pastor in The Philippines to preach on a Wednesday night service by way of Skype. This event happened on June 24th.

By the middle of July, I added on eight more pastors to helping 15 ministries one of which ministries served thousands of people in India. All the pastors were exclaiming how powerful my teachings were. I told them it’s because of God.

On July 17, 2015, I received the following email from the pastor in India:

“Dear Gloria Hass,

Greetings in His Mighty Name from INDIA.. Who is ALIVE & Works in Us..

I am greatly blessed by the messages you emailed me & I am going to preach & teach among my church planters who are in great need of spiritual food these days. They generally don't get to the internet or smart phones to know more about the world. they stay in the remote & unreached places where no proper communication is there and they used to involve in preaching the Good News of the lord to the people groups who are poverty stricken & in pathetic condition without proper food & clothes.

So I request you to please uphold our church planters (53) & their needs while adventuring into the more dangerous places to spread the Gospel.

This month I am going to meet them in a jungle area where we share about work of the lord and same I am taking your print -out messages and translate into Oriya & Telugu language for their understanding & spiritual growth.

Please continue to encourage us.”

My heart swelled to hear of how God was using me to reach people in the deep recesses of the world! This is what I had prayed for before when I had asked God to use me for revival!

On July 18, 2015, I received a friend request from a young man in Bangladesh who asked me to pray for his ministries. In turn, I asked him to pray for my ministry and told him what I did. We are in the process of discussing my preaching via Skype and on August 7, 2015, I will be delivering an hour long message during an evangelistic and healing conference in Pakistan via Skype.

Each week, my ministry grows more rapidly with evangelizing in depressed countries who cannot afford to pay an evangelist. I speak with other people in ministry to lift them up and pray for them in Bangladesh, India, Africa and The Philippines.

I love spreading the Word of God and He is supplying my needs which He has always done. The bible states the laborer is worth his hire. At this time, God has someone who is helping me financially through December of 2015. After that, I don’t know what God is going to do. He has promised us today and I am being taken care of today. He cares for me more than the lilies of the field and the birds of the air. I know He will continue to provide for my needs.

I am glad I am back evangelizing – it is my passion and fills every fiber of my being. Words cannot express how elated I am. I also conduct a Saturday morning call in church service by phone call in. I record these messages and they are available on my web site as well. I am also filming my messages and placing them on youtube.com.

I evangelize in spite of having Multiple Sclerosis, Fibromyalgia, Glaucoma and mild seizures. I will continue to evangelize as long as there is breath in me and look forward to edifying believers who need building up in their faith as well as bringing the unsaved to Jesus. This is my passion and calling.

Own It! How To Embrace Who You Are! by Kim Somers Egelsee

There are 7 C's to embracing who you truly are. And the way it can be achieved successfully is if you commit 100% to yourself by actually being it, doing it and owning it!!


Here are the 7 C's and what I do to fully express who I truly am:


1. Check in with yourself regularly throughout the day. It is important to always feel where you are at; to see how you are feeling. And if you are feeling down or upset, allow yourself to feel these feelings but make sure not to let it consume you. Find a healthy way to release it - perhaps journaling, getting into nature, meditating, exercising or talking to a loved one so that you can vent in a healthy way (not in a gossipy way).


2. Be Careful with whom you spend your time with. Sometimes the people we surround ourselves with can be vampire suckers and drain us of our energy. If this is currently happening in your life, you may want to write a list of inspiring people that you would like to hang out with and then start going to gatherings, networking events, etc to meet these people.


3. Choose - remind yourself that you have choices. You have the freedom to choose what will be in your highest good when it comes to your happiness and success in life.


4. Be Clear on your strengths and what you love about you. It is imperative to acknowledge just how amazing you truly are and it all begins with self-love. Write down your strengths and the things you are passionate about and soon you will discover the things that you love about yourself.


5. Communicate - when you communicate respectfully what it is you are feeling in a positive and respectful way, you are more easily to be heard and respected, as well.


6. Connect and collaborate - Get out there and connect with others that inspire you to see if they would be open to collaborating on projects together. When you step out of your comfort zone to network with other like-minded entrepreneurs, magic can happen!


7. Create opportunities and jump into them - along with connecting and collaborating with others, it is important for yourself to connect with yourself in order to tap into your creative self to build opportunities and ideas that inspire others. And when you're creative juices start flowing, make sure to jump in with both feet and commit to yourself!


When you follow the 7 C's, you will begin to fully embrace who you truly are with open arms! So begin by giving yourself a hug then BE, DO and OWN your worth because YOU are worth it!